For 3 years I have suffered with vaginismus and I thought it was a problem with me, an unsolvable problem. Until I met Cara! That sounds corny, I know but its true. I come across Cara’s website through simply searching the term vaginismus online & was suddenly filled with hope that there was a cure! – THRIVE. I battled with vaginismus to the point where sex was not possible at all, I had been told by Doctor’s and gynaecologists that this condition was very difficult to treat and required physical treatment, examinations – you name it!
Anybody experiencing this condition will understand what I mean when it feels like your hitting a brick wall followed by feeling very down after each failure. After seeing Cara I am able to have sex and actually enjoy it! Thank you SO much for all of your help Cara, feel like a little butterfly let loose! Hannah, 21
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Types of Vaginismus
Primary vaginismus: This is where a woman has never at any time been able to have pain-free intercourse due to the tensing of the vaginal muscles. Some women with primary vaginismus are unable to wear tampons or complete pelvic examinations. Often this condition means that many couples are unable to consummate their relationship.
Secondary vaginismus: This can also develop later in life, even after many years of pleasurable intercourse. It is usually precipitated by a medical condition, traumatic event, childbirth, surgery, or life-change.
Dyspareunia: This is a medical term that simply means ‘painful intercourse’ and is used to describe all types of sexual pain.
Vaginismus IS treatable – with the right intervention
Of the many vaginismus clients I have worked with, most have already tried various treatment options. These have included vaginal trainers, pelvic floor exercises or sex therapy – and to little or no avail. The issue with vaginal trainers is that, even if they work, they provide a purely physical solution to the problem. They do not help women overcome the psychological or emotional aspects that created the symptom, which is vital. Any treatment of vaginismus that does not address these components is unlikely to be successful in the long term.
Unfortunately, there is a great deal of inaccurate information that some ‘professionals’ dealing with this problem impart to sufferers.
The good news is that with the right approach, vaginismus CAN be easily treated. Vaginismus is the result of simple but fundamental issues in a woman’s thinking and beliefs about herself and her body. There is nothing deep-rooted or difficult to change…even though you may feel that there is!
Intimate or personal issues can be difficult to seek help for and talk about but are surprisingly common in both men and women. At the Rickmansworth and Aylesbury Thrive Programme Centre you can rest assured that I am highly experienced in treating sexual problems and always deal with them in a sensitive and professional way.
Hi Cara, I hope you remember me – I completed the thrive programme with you around a year ago. I was seeing you for vaginismus. I wanted to let you know that I am completely cured of vaginismus….I am soooo much happier in all aspects of my life now. So, I just wanted to let you know that you really helped me. Thrive really was the turning point for me and I recommend it to everyone I speak to in and outside of work who wants to make any kind of change in their lives. Thank you!
Sophie, Thrive Programme treatment for vaginismus
The Thrive Programme: Successful treatment for Vaginismus:
I help all my clients by using The Thrive Programme. It is a unique and very effective training programme that helps you to understand yourself, your beliefs and your thinking and how those element are causing the vaginismus. Mostly, vaginismus is caused by factors such as self esteem and ‘social anxiety’ – feeling put on the spot in the bedroom. Another huge contributory factor is simply expecting sex to hurt and therefore tensing up, so the pain becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy. Sometimes issues in the dynamics of a relationship spill over into the bedroom, resulting in vaginismus.
However, once you have the insight to understand exactly how you may be creating the thinking and anxiety behind the symptom, it can be very easy to think differently, change old patterns of behaviour and feel back in control.
Note: Occasionally, vaginismus has a physical or physiological cause, such as a yeast infection. If you suspect this could be the case, see your GP before consulting for help.
Having had vaginismus for 10 years I was beginning to give up on the idea of ever being able to have sex.
I’d tried counselling and psychosexual therapy for years with very little progress, but all I’d needed was 6 sessions of Thrive. Cara really helped me see that sex was possible and all that was stopping me was me! I really do feel now that anything is possible. Cara, I cannot thank you enough- my life has changed so much and I can now really look forward to my future. Millie, 28
Booking your free initial consultation couldn’t be easier.
It is perfectly natural that you may have questions about The Thrive Programme. To arrange a free consultation or to book an appointment call 07740 781 573
If I’m with a client, you can leave a confidential message on my answerphone and I will return your call as soon as possible.
Alternatively, you can email me at: firstname.lastname@example.org
For those people who are too far away to reach my clinic, I do offer Skype sessions
Vaginsimus treatment at the Rickmansworth thrive clinic. The clinic serves the following areas: , Harrow, Pinner, Hillingdon, Uxbridge, Northwood, Watford, Wembley and London