Written by Cara Ostryn, Thrive Programme Consultant, based in Rickmansworth, NW London and Aylesbury, Beds.
Why is The Thrive Programme unique?
The Thrive Programme brings together scientific research and years of clinical experience in a unique and dynamic manner that is easily accessible to all. Although many other training courses and techniques do focus upon some similar concepts to Thrive, most don’t go into the same in-depth detail of the underlying fundamentals nor integrate the knowledge in such a comprehensive manner. It is because Thrive Programme clients are helped to attain a very high degree of self-awareness, that they are able to clearly see what they need to do in order to ‘get better’, and why they are then also willing to put in as much effort as is required.
Unlike some other courses The Thrive Programme is empowering because it is understandable and accessible. It is not based upon ‘magical’, disempowering beliefs. The Thrive Programme is not therapy or a treatment programme where something is ‘done to’ a person. It is all about empowering people to make the necessary changes for themselves.
About Rob Kelly, Creator of Thrive
This unique programme has been developed by renowned psychotherapist, lecturer and author Rob Kelly and his uniquely insightful understanding of people, attained over his 25 years in clinical practice. His experiences and research have led to an exceptional level of understanding of people’s problems, symptoms and anxieties.
The main topics covered in the programme
Thrive is a structured, easy to follow training programme that involves you really getting to understand:
• How YOU create fears and anxieties and symptoms – and how to free yourself of them.
• What makes you tick, what limiting beliefs you may have, and the specific ‘thinking styles’ you adopt.
• The ‘Psychological Foundations’ that dictate how you lead your life: your Self Esteem and Sense of Control.
• How much power you believe you have to make changes in your life, how in control you feel. Learn how your desire for control means you avoid many situations…and how to regain that control.
• How your self-esteem can be changed in just two weeks, and the huge knock-on effect this will have upon you.
• How to banish Social Anxiety and feel confident around others.
Who is suitable for The Thrive Programme?
Anybody who is motivated to change and is capable of understanding and applying the programme will benefit from it. Even children as young as 10 are able to benefit from the programme.
How long is the programme?
Most people need six weekly sessions to significantly or completely overcome their issues, with follow-up support after this time to ensure you are still thriving. Sometimes just two or three sessions are all that’s necessary to resolve a simple problem.
How long is each session?
Usually 75-90 minutes. Sessions should ideally be weekly to maintain momentum.
Are the sessions one-to-one or group sessions?
Most sessions are one-to-one, except where I am working with children and parents. However, it is possible to deliver the Thrive Programme to a group of people.
What is the effort I need to put in?
You need to engage in the session and be as open as you can. After each session, I will give you a two or three chapters from the Thrive book to read. It’s a fascinating and interactive book so do all the quizzes and exercises asked of you. Generally, apply your knowledge from our sessions and the book to your everyday life as much as possible. Occasionally I may set you little tasks further on in the programme, nothing too daunting, just to help you to create new positive beliefs and behaviour.
It sounds too good to be true! Will it work for me?
Well, that depends on you! From my personal experience, if a client is putting in the correct amount of effort they always WILL always hugely benefit from the programme. The results from The Thrive Programme are only as impressive as the effort the client is putting into the process. Thrive will not work for people who are only looking for a magical quick fix. This is why my testimonials pages are so important – there’s nothing like hearing about Thrive directly from the people who have already been through the programme and have transformed their lives.
How The Thrive Programme is different to Suggestion Hypnotherapy
The appeal of hypnotherapy is entirely understandable. When people feel powerless about resolving their anxiety or symptom, who wouldn’t like the idea of being ‘put out to sleep’ to find that your problems are gone when you wake up! This CAN indeed sometimes be the case when the client has a minor symptom or limiting belief. In this case, suggestion hypnosis may well be all that person needs to get over that blip in their life. Hypnosis has it’s benefits and I do sometimes use it to give clients an extra boost.
However, ALL our symptoms, whether it’s depression, anxiety, phobias, OCD, insomnia are the direct result of our THINKING! Therefore, in order to permanently overcome a symptom, the most empowering thing we can do is understand and address the thinking that caused it in the first place. Hypnosis may well change our thinking about a certain issue, but without the substance or foundation to support the new thinking/beliefs we run the risk of quickly undoing the hypnosis suggestions by reverting to old ways of thinking.
The aim of Hypnosis is to suggest away symptoms. However, symptoms are only the END RESULT of other issues – whether it’s issues with our self esteem, social anxiety or feeling out of control. Therefore, unless these primary issues are addressed, many positive results of hypnotherapy are unlikely to be permanent. The good news is that it really is quite simple to change the real cause of our symptoms in an empowering and permanent way – which is what The Thrive Programme aims to do in just six sessions.
My aim is to help empower people with a treatment that is predictable and understandable – and unfortunately results acheived from hypnotherapy are neither of these things.
Is The Thrive Programme is different to counselling?
Yes, completely! Counselling can be beneficial by allowing a client to off-load or talk through a problem. This is particularly useful if that person is unable to talk to friends or family. However, the disadvantage of counselling can be that you may find yourself going over old ground, dredging up past hurts and experiences and bringing those pains to the surface but with no resolution or change of perspective.
I find this is particularly the case with counselling that is focussed on discussing people’s childhoods. Very often, when people feel unhappy with themselves or their lives in the here and now, they feel powerless to change themselves, their behaviour or their circumstances…and hope that by resolving past issues will help their present days problems. However, going back to the past is rarely the answer. You may gain more insight into why you behave as you do….although it doesn’t necessarily mean that you feel empowered enough to overcome problems or change your life now.
With Thrive, the focus is upon your thoughts TODAY. We are looking at the processes by which anxiety and symptoms are created: HOW you think about things, rather than WHAT you are thinking about. This explains why some days people may have their symptom and other days they do not – their lives may not have changed but their thinking has.
How does The Thrive Programme differ from Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) or NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming)?
Thrive is entirely different to techniques such as NLP or CBT, even if on the surface they may sound similar.
Thrive doesn’t just focus upon giving a person some isolated insights, tools and techniques to cope with a symptom or problem. These approaches are ‘fire-fighting’ – trying to control or reduce the anxiety AFTER we have already created it by our thinking. Often people tire quickly of having to maintain this level of effort of fending of negative thoughts. The Thrive Programme is about Thriving and overcoming symptoms is just a part of that. It is about creating strong psychological foundations (eg, good self esteem) so that we are not creating anxiety. You don’t need to fire-fight if you are not setting fires in the first place!
The Thrive Programme is a comprehensive training course, which provides people with unique self-insights that enables them to develop the beliefs, resources and motivation to build resilience and make positive changes across all areas of their lives. It is of limited value teaching you any sort of ‘positive thinking’ or CBT or NLP techniques unless you understand the component parts of your thinking and beliefs that continue to create the anxiety. If you are not able to understand or alter the driving forces behind your symptoms or anxiety, it can feel as though you are ‘treading water’ trying to fend off negative thoughts.
Thrive is a training programme and not therapy. It is not about someone else doing something for you or to you but about YOU taking control of your life. It is so much more empowering to take control of your own problems, rather than someone else resolving them for you.
About The Thrive Programme – from a past client’s perspective
A recent Thrive Programme client has kindly written about her experience of Thrive. She came to me wanting hypnosis as she felt disillusioned with the ineffectiveness of CBT (cognitive behaviour therapy) and counselling. This is what she had to say:
The way I found this programme was through searching hypnotism on the internet. After having years of counselling and CBT, and still not really seeing any noticeable changes in myself, I felt like hypnotising myself was the last resort and only option I had left. When I first met with Cara, I explained that the route of all my problems was related to a troubled childhood, which had been the focus of all my previous counselling and therapy sessions, and said I wanted to be hypnotised into fading and making these uncomfortable memories disappear. I soon learned that this isn’t the help which was on offer to me.
When I first started Thrive I thought ‘here we go again’, another course of sessions of talking about things i’d rather forget, and working on things which never seem to change. However having completed the course, i’ve never been so grateful for the existence of a programme which genuinely is so different and helpful over therapies such as CBT.
A major example of my problems included feeling depressed on a regular basis and using alcohol and destructive behaviours as a way to mask these feelings. I was often told to just stop drinking and to stop engaging in certain behaviours, despite having never really been told how. It constantly made me feel like I was helpless, and began to believe that I should accept that this is me, my personality, and theres no point trying to change my ways.
Thrive is an actively engaging programme which doesn’t necessarily directly deal with what you may have gone through, but deals with managing your thinking, and really does change the way you react, think and feel about almost everything in life. It has truly made me realise that life is actually pretty simple, and what happened to me in the past is the past, and by simply re-gaining control of my thoughts and therefore actions, I am the happiest I could have ever imagined. Thrive truly saved me, and nothing I can say can explain the depth and extent to which it did so, but all I know is that those feelings of sadness and helplessness are a genuine distant memory and Ive never felt so in control of all my emotions.
Even if theres someone out there with minor confidence issues, giving up addictions, or weight-loss, theres nothing I would recommend more than this programme. Theres no reason not to do it other than to change your life for the better. It lasts forever, because you don’t just leave the programme with a list of techniques and ideas, you leave a changed you.
Some information on this page has been taken from The Thrive Programme’s official website: www.thriveprogramme.org/about-the-thrive-programme/