Genuine testimonials of people who had help with confidence & self esteem issues

Below are genuine testimonials of people whose lives have been changed with the Thrive Programme. My Thrive offices are based in Rickmansworth, Herts and Aylesbury, Buckinghamshire.

help with confidenceSusanne, 47, feels confident and no longer affected by the past…

I have done the Thrive Programme with Cara. I was first sceptical as I had tried a lot of self-help books, counselling, alternative treatments, spiritual stuff etc. My problem was being stuck in the past and blaming my childhood and the circumstances I grew up in as the cause of my unhappiness and failure. I felt utterly at the merci of other people and this feeling of helplessness and anger was very difficult. And the more I tried to get out of it without success the more I got frustrated.

But then I found the Thrive Programme and reading through Cara’s and Rob’s website I felt that this was it. And it was! I knew a lot of things intellectually but I couldn’t apply it to my life. Now this programme really explains how you tick and does help you with easy exercises and actions to change all your limiting beliefs, unhelpful thinking styles etc. But you got to put EFFORT in it. It is you who is doing the change and who is in control of your own feelings and life. It is pretty amazing to experience the shift from very low self-esteem to really feeling good in just a few weeks. I can only highly recommend the Thrive Programme. And also Cara is really skilled in guiding you through the programme. I felt immediately confident and comfortable with her.

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Ryan, 39, consulted for anxiety and low self esteem

I’d always been quite an anxious person and often encountered high levels of stress. Working with Cara and going through the Thrive program has helped me so much. I found the content of the program to be very insightful. It has made me realise that I have the ability to control how I feel. The program has provided me with useful tools to really improve my self esteem and to handle challenges in a more positive way. 7 weeks on and the journey continues but I feel a thousand times better and am confident that my self esteem will continue to strengthen and I will Thrive day in day out.

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Helen, 45, helped with confidence and self esteem issues

I started the Thrive programme as I felt I had lost my sense of identity, confidence and self-esteem. I had gone from a high profile job in the city to being a stay at home mum of two toddlers and as much as I loved looking after them I felt I had lost my confidence and began to fear the thought of going back to work. Everyone told me I was mad and that I would be great again once I got back into it but I needed to get rid of all of the negative thoughts and the anxious feeling I constantly had in my stomach every time it was mentioned.

I also thought I was a very positive person, I soon realised that I portrayed a great image to the outside world and supported everyone else but on the inside it was a very different story. Cara took me through the Thrive programme and I cannot thank her enough. She was very supportive and week by week I began to feel stronger and good about myself. It also helped me to understand my partner better and his thinking styles. 

This book is amazing and totally different to every other self-help book I’ve read, and I’ve read a few!! Cara took me though a six week course and the results have been fantastic. I am using the techniques and the some of them are pretty much instant. I was so excited when I finished the course, my social anxiety had almost disappeared and my low self-esteem gone. It’s not to say that every now and again a negative thought doesn’t pop up but I know how to handle these now and I think about these for a minute rather than it spoil my whole day.

I am keen to read the book again and again as I firmly believe that the more you read this the happier and more confident you will feel. Its only now that I realise that I am in control of my happiness and successes and that it was my own negative thoughts that were holding me back. Thank you Cara and Rob for this amazing experience.

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Laura, 46, help for low self esteem and weight loss

I can’t express how much better I feel and it has been both a privilege and a pleasure to have got to this point with your help. I feel as though I can be the best version of me now if that makes sense? I won’t hesitate to recommend you in future and feel free to quote me on that!I know that I can do whatever I put my mind to now (climbing Everest, not so much!) and the present AND the future  is no longer something to be feared or endured but to be embraced with open arms and a firm foundation. The only downside is that I won’t get to see you on a weekly basis anymore cos you are ace you are

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The thrive programme – it is amazing. I think a lot of it is common sense but we humans are strange beasts and the daft things we do to ourselves do need to be pointed out to us. We allow ourselves become creatures of habit and unfortunately mostly bad habits – most of us need someone or something to help us break the pattern. I feel as if a large wad of cotton wool has been lifted from my head – as if I’ve stepped out from the fog.

I was suffering increasing social anxiety and low self-esteem. I felt completely trapped and unable to change anything. I had even started to feel `scared’ of all sorts of things that had never before and was putting it down to just getting older. My friends and family would probably not have realized that I suffered from these feelings – which did descend at times into depression. My husband, on the other hand, probably suffered as much as me!

By working through the Thrive book, it became clear that I had been beating myself up for years and suffering very unhelpful thinking styles. It has enabled me to take control of my mind and therefore actions.I now feel really happy and I feel as if I could do anything. I’ve not quite decided what it is I want to do yet but I am really excited. I am almost there, it is not yet second nature to me and I am still doing the exercises. I also have to set my goals and start to achieve new heights. However I feel I have the tools with which to do all this.

The course does include some hard work. I did the six week course with the lovely therapist, Cara Ostryn. I had to commit, make time and work through the exercises. But it was so enlightening and refreshing to challenge my thinking that I came to thoroughly enjoy it. The rewards are almost immediately apparent as soon as you start to challenge your limitiing beliefs, thought patterns and perceptions.
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Zoe, 30 , helped with anxiety, depression and body dysmorphia

About 12 years ago I developed an eating disorder around the time I was studying for my A levels. From then onwards things became progressively worse; depression, social anxiety, low self-esteem and body dysmorphia. Following the advice of my doctor I tried various therapies and antidepressants in my early 20s, however these were unsuccessful and I eventually gave up on finding a solution. I felt completely powerless to change how I was feeling.
More recently, a friend suggested that I book an appointment with Cara, who I cannot recommend enough! Cara is very easy to talk to and helped me feel comfortable discussing difficult issues. Cara was very patient with me and helped me to see just how detrimental my unhelpful beliefs and thinking styles were; I was creating and maintaining the feelings of depression and anxiety myself, and this could be changed. I slowly began to see that being happy was something that I did have control over, but it just hadn’t felt like it previously as my negative thoughts had become so automatic.
Cara showed me how to work through the exercises in the Thrive book, and when I made a very conscious and determined effort continually over a six week period to work through these I began to see a huge improvement. Once I saw the beneficial effects of applying the techniques I became even more determined to carry on working through the book and I now feel like a completely different person. Prior to completing the Thrive course I hadn’t believed that I would ever be totally free of the feelings of anxiousness and the persistent negative thoughts, but they are now completely gone and I am finally able to relax and feel happy for the first time in years. I am confident that I will never return to the way I was before as I have completely changed the way I think, and I can’t even remember what it felt like to be so unhappy!
Cara has helped me to completely change my life and I couldn’t be more grateful….thank you.

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help for confidence aylesbury buckinghamshireAmazon.co.uk review from my Thrive client consulting for lack of confidence

Facing redundancy for the first time in over 30 years, I thought I needed help, particularly for confidence. I hold quite a senior role in the company I am leaving, so was daunted by the prospect of finding another role at the same level, as I felt my self-confidence didn’t match the requirement for the seniority of roles I’d be looking for. I put this down to my childhood, where I’d always been told at school that I lacked confidence, and it’s plagued me ever since.

I booked to see a hypnotherapist (the wonderful Cara Ostryn – if you live in the Watford/Harrow/Rickmansworth area, Google her!), as I figured this would be a good way to tackle my issues. Instead of offering me hypnotherapy, Cara introduced me to the Thrive programme. How wrong I was about the roots of my issues! Over a series of 6 weeks, Cara took me through this marvellous book. It tackles every aspect of your limiting beliefs, with simple exercises that are fun and easy to do. By testing yourself at the beginning and end of the programme, in a tangible way you can see for yourself the change it’s had upon you. And because you are answering the questions for yourself, how YOU feel and what YOU believe, you know for sure that the change has happened.

I’ve read all sorts of self-help books over the years – What to say when you talk to yourself, the magic of thinking big, feel the fear and do it anyway, are just a few that spring to mind – and any benefit has been very short-lived. By using this book, I really feel as though I’ve made a fundamental and lasting change.

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Elliot, 14, helped for insecurity about his appearance

I came to Cara to try to alleviate my social-anxiety. I was so nervous about leaving my house just because of how I looked every single day; I would spend hours indoors just waiting by the door to pluck up the courage to leave. My focus at school was beginning to drop and I was just getting worse. After just a couple of sessions with Cara I felt so much better, like a completely different person! I can’t even remember what it was like to be so worried and stressed out.

When I go back to the beginning of my Thrive book and look at some of the answers I gave to the quizzes I think: ‘Why would I have said that? Did I really used to believe that?’ After completing the course I feel so much more free and can have a happy day every day! I cannot both thank nor recommend Cara enough, she has done so much to help me and my life has truly been changed. Thank You Cara 🙂

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Vince, 48, Thrive client – fear of public speaking

Although the messages were difficult I was really pleased how I was able to deliver them. I felt much more relaxed and confident than I ever imagined I would. In fact for the larger most difficult session I felt really in control – which was amazing bearing in mind the subject matter and the audience. I feel much more confident overall. So thank you – I think it’s been brilliant!
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Louise, 49, helped for confidence and stress

 

I feel like I have been on a journey with this and you have been brilliant. I now feel more confident and can understand why I felt so negative about lots of my life. I am 50 this year and I feel like I am on the threshold of life!!! No more negative thoughts for me. I now look and observe people in a different way and I feel more pragmatic about my life. This has given me my life back.

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Kelly, 32, fear of public speaking

The funeral yesterday was lovely and my reading went incredibly well. Having previously broken out in cold sweats with a pounding heart just at the thought of public speaking, yesterday I wasn’t in the least bit nervous before or during the reading and, shock horror, I actually enjoyed it!
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Louise, 48, Thrive client, consulted for feeling stuck in a rut

Coming to see you to do the Thrive programme was the best thing I’ve done in a very long time. I am so glad I made that initial effort, that step towards change.

Firstly – just coming to see you – a sympathetic ear, and a lovely, caring soul – I found it really hard to look inside my own head and analyze my thoughts. With your help, it was possible. All done with a delightful humour too, I do wish I could have you on my doorstep for a chat whenever I felt like it.

Secondly – the thrive programme – it is amazing. I think a lot of it is common sense but we are strange beasts and the daft things we do to ourselves do need to be pointed out to us. We allow ourselves become creatures of habit and unfortunately mostly bad habits – most of us need someone or something to help us break the pattern. I feel as if a large wad of cotton wool has been lifted from my head – as if I’ve stepped out from the fog.

I was suffering increasing social anxiety and low self-esteem. I felt completely trapped and unable to change anything. I had even started to feel ‘scared’ of all sorts of things that had never before and was putting it down to just getting older. My friends and family would probably not have realized that I suffered from these feelings – which did descend at times into depression. My husband, on the other hand, probably suffered as much as me! The Thrive programme showed me that I had been beating myself up for years and suffering very unhelpful thinking styles. It has enabled me to take control of my mind and therefore actions.

I now feel really happy and I feel as if I could do anything. I’ve not quite decided what it is I want to do yet but I am really excited. I am almost there, it is not yet second nature to me and I am still doing the exercises. I also have to set my goals and start to achieve new heights. However I feel I have the tools with which to do all this. The course does include some hard work. I had to commit, make time and work through the exercises. But it was so enlightening and refreshing to challenge my thinking that I came to enjoy it.

I couldn’t have done it without you. And I can’t thank you enough

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Amazon.co.uk review of Thrive (Changing Limiting Beliefs)

I decided to seek help at a time in my life when, I had some really big challenges to face and I couldn’t see a positive way forward. I worked through this book with Cara Ostryn who is based in Rickmansworth. Looking back I can’t believe how quickly my life has turned around. Now I face my challenges with confidence, rather then finding ways to avoid them. I have achieved things that I never believed I could. I highly recommend ‘Changing Limiting Beliefs’ to anyone who needs to change their life. A big thanks to Rob and Cara.

help with confidenceSara, 40, treated for sexual problems and low self esteem

So do I just want to say thank you to you?? NOT really, I want to big you a big big sisterly HUG! For your kindness and compassion, for your support and care, for your commitment and understanding, for being so non judgemental, for being patient, for being sweet, for being the person there for me at a difficult time, for being my confidente ,who listened to me, heard me and helped me find my way, my shining star !!!!!!

You have truly been inspiring to me in a lot of ways, and you have touched my life in a way that I will cherish and hold forever. I am feeling more confident and my self esteem has improved tremendously and I can honestly say I feel ‘really content’…

Things are changing for the better, I am the one who is changing and I am enjoying it. I am more aware of myself and my control over ‘me’, which feels really good…. so thank you for making me smile 🙂

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Tina, 25, treated for low self esteem

I now can start enjoying my life knowing that I am not carrying emotional baggage which was affecting all aspects of my life. Now its time to start living!

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Nikki, 42, Consulting for fear of public speaking, lack of confidence
at work and general negative emotions

Dearest Cara, well where do I start….it’s been an incredible journey from the 1st day I met you. Your support and kindness in helping me through the therapy has been extraordinary! Without your warmth and caring nature…I would not have succeeded in getting the amazing result I did. You have truly changed my life forever! I am finally free from the emotional chains that have stopped me from being truly happy deep inside.

The battle I had been experiencing all my life with negative emotions is now going (and I feel almost gone completely). Through the understanding and letting go of old emotions I can look forward to a positive, happy and confident future. I no longer felt insecure, defensive, guilty or self conscious… I didn’t feel I needed to please people anymore, or think that I upset people, I didn’t have the feeling I have anything to hide, no lump in my throat and didn’t feel angry or depressed unecessarily.

I used to feel like I did not want to carry on living – that’s now gone. Instead, I felt genuinely happy, hopeful, confident. I have got my personal power back, I remember things better,I am more honest about what I feel and am not worried about what people will think of me. Words cannot describe how grateful I am for your help. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

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Anita, 37, treated for social anxiety & confidence 

I am really happy with how I have progressed and can feel a definite change in the way I feel and think and I’m much more confident in social situations. I’ve also noticed that I analyse less about what I think people may think of me. Thank you so, so, so much for sorting me out and for listening to me. I know I wouldn’t be feeling the way I feel now if I had never met you.

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John, consulted for weight loss and self esteem issues

 

I cannot begin to thank you enough for what you have done for me and my family. I came to you as a chap who put on a mask to the outside world that everything was fine and dandy, while underneath the surface I was drowning in emotions of guilt, nerves, anxiety, frustration and self hate.

But thanks to your help, support, confidence and superb therapy sessions, I have became so much more confident, guilt free, less frustrated, anxious, nervous and so much more happier with life but more importantly feeling so much more contented with myself as a person. I couldn’t recommend this therapy treatment any more if I tried. Thank you so much for helping change my life for the better!!!

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I am really happy with how I have progressed and can feel a definite change in the way I feel and think and I’m much more confident in social situations. I’ve also noticed that I analyse less about what I think people may think of me. Thank you so, so, so much for sorting me out and for listening to me. I know I wouldn’t be feeling the way I feel now if I had never met you.

Anita, 37, treated for social anxiety & confidence

 

* some client names have been changed to preserve anonymity. 

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