I feel in control of my everyday feelings and those negative feelings which always came to destroy me or my diet…It’s a funny feeling, light, happy, airy, clear and it feels wonderful
Lindsay, 40, treated for weight loss, binge eating and low self esteem.
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The connection between weight and self esteem
It may be that you eat when you are bored or stressed or maybe you just never really feel full up. Food provides that instant reward and gratification, hence the term ‘comfort eating’. When you need an emotional boost or need cheering up, that easily accessible chocolate bar or bag or crisps is an easy way of getting that – but just for that moment. Then often the guilt and regret often follows shortly after…
For many of my clients, their self esteem hinges on how attractive they look and how slim they feel. They feel that by being in control of their weight they are more in control of how others perceive them, value them and like/love them. However, feelings of low self worth, feeling ugly, feeling ‘not good enough’ come from within; these feelings arise from a more general lack of self esteem, but are being attributed to how they look – and of course, being overweight only adds to these negative feelings. People who don’t understand self-image wrongly put all their attention on changing their eating and exercise behaviors, but the problem with this physical-only approach is that it’s not addressing the source or cause of the behavior. That’s why, mainly, diets don’t work.
Weight loss and self sabotage
People lose weight when they are most motivated to do so. This is the time when diets are most successful. However, for as many people who lose weight from dieting, and manage to maintain that loss, there are many more who put the weight back on again…and then some. This can be due to slipping back into old eating habits once the motivation has worn off. Or it can be due to self sabotage – they feel they don’t deserve to look good – it is incongruent with how they feel inside. Or perhaps, they don’t like the attention that being slim brings with it – it feels outside of their comfort zone. They are attempting to move beyond the safe, familiar and comfortable
Unfortunately, most people plagued by being overweight try to slim using a variety of ineffectual methods: they move through an array of fad diets and all usually having the same disappointing result…any pounds shed are almost always quickly regained once the diet has ended. Diets are also unsuccessful because they compel the dieter to think about the very thing with which they have already been too preoccupied – food. On a diet we are constantly thinking about food.