Testimonials from clients who had help for difficult emotions

The Thrive Programme works wonderfully for anyone experiencing painful and difficult feelings and emotions, such as grief, depression, jealousy and guilt. Below are some testimonials from clients who struggled with these emotions.

All testimonials have all been reproduced with their kind permission

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Claire, 51, helped for feelings of grief

I went to see Cara after my dog died prematurely and in the midst of my father’s terminal illness. I was desperate as I felt I couldn’t cope and was losing my mind. I couldn’t stop replaying in my mind the events of the week before my dog died, feeling sure I should have spotted signs of illness, and felt helpless.

I had tried CBT for previous anxiety issues but this didn’t really help me. So I was sceptical about whether Cara could help, but felt I had no alternative. I literally couldn’t go on as I had been using my dog as an emotional crutch. Walking her helped me control my thoughts and loving and caring for her made me feel better about myself. I also loved her dearly.

I am happy to report that it is the best decision I have made. The Thrive programme teaches you about your thinking, why you are thinking a certain way and how to change your thinking styles. It teaches you how to be in control of your thoughts by building stronger emotional foundations. And because you do it all yourself, it stays with you. It requires work and effort but it’s rewarding, so worth it. So when I start blaming myself for things, thinking someone thinks badly of me, start having catastrophic thoughts etc, I know why so can immediately stop them. It is also amazing because you start to understand the behaviour of those around you too!

I am of course still sad about the loss of my dog and now my father, but not in an out of control way. I can cope with my grief and also better with life.
Thank you, Cara.

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Priya, 28, treated for jealousy

I came to Cara at the point when my jealousy and insecurities had reached breaking point. I felt very unhappy and angry all the time and could not see it geting better. I am extremely pleased to say that I feel on top of the world. Cara has helped me to get rid of all the guilt, anger and hatred that I had within myself which was seriously affecting my daily life as an adult. I would highly recommend Cara, as she is extremely friendly, kind, non-judgemental and most importantly she knows what she is doing. Thank you for everything, Cara

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Gary, 48, treated for depression and anxiety

At the time that I was introduced to Cara and the Thrive Programme I was feeling very low, believing that it was my primarily the pressures of my job that was bringing me down. I was overwhelmed by what needed to be done both at home and at work, unable to put things into perspective and struggling to make progress with anything.  Starting the course with Cara came at a vital time for me, providing a much needed boost and I found the six week course a very enjoyable and positive experience.

It has really helped to get me back on track and shown me that I have the power to change my approach and sort things out for myself.  The support from Cara throughout was great and very much appreciated.  Thank-you Cara and ‘Well Done’ to me for giving the course a go and making it work for me

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James, 70, helped with feelings of grief and guilt

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Dear Cara, I first came to see you on 17th December 2014. You helped a friend of mine to stop smoking and I came to see you for the same reason. During our initial meeting, I told you that I had lost my wife in July 2014. I know that the pain of the loss of my wife had changed my life, after all, Mo was my life. However, I was not aware of the extent that my wife’s death had affected me, the guilt, anger, the feeling of being worthless. You quickly identified that for me to stop smoking, there was a raft of issues that I needed to deal with, mainly due to Mo’s death.

The Thrive course is amazing, written in a way that I would call ‘human’ and not too difficult to get your head around to understand. However, any course is only as good as the person administering it. You Cara, have been truly wonderful, your warmth, your feeling, your understanding and most of all, you truly cared. Yes, you helped me to stop smoking, but more than that you helped me to deal with the grief and devestation that I was feeling at the loss of Mo. In short, you helped me to get my life back. I will always love and miss Mo, but due to you I am able to deal with it.

For that Cara, you will always have my heartfelt thanks and gratitude. You helped me become more internal. I may never see you or talk to you again, but I shall always remember you.

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Jasmin, 20, treated for depression and anxiety

  I’ve never been so grateful for the existence of a programme which genuinely is so different and helpful over therapies such as CBT.

A major example of my problems included feeling depressed on a regular basis and using alcohol and destructive behaviours as a way to mask these feelings. I was often told to just stop drinking and to stop engaging in certain behaviours, despite having never really been told how. It constantly made me feel like I was helpless, and began to believe that I should accept that this is me, my personality, and theres no point trying to change my ways.

Thrive is an actively engaging programme which… really does change the way you react, think and feel about almost everything in life. It has truly made me realise that life is actually pretty simple, and what happened to me in the past is the past, and by simply re-gaining control of my thoughts and therefore actions, I am the happiest I could have ever imagined. Thrive truly saved me, and nothing I can say can explain the depth and extent to which it did so, but all I know is that those feelings of sadness and helplessness are a genuine distant memory and Ive never felt so in control of all my emotions.

Even if theres someone out there with minor confidence issues, giving up addictions, or weight-loss, theres nothing I would recommend more than this programme. It lasts forever, because you don’t just leave the programme with a list of techniques and ideas, you leave a changed you.

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Jessica, 26, treated for guilt and anxiety from sexual abuse

I experienced social anxiety, unexplainable nervous twitches and negative thoughts such as shame, guilt and fear. To all of you who suspect that there is something wrong with you, something which is holding you back from embracing the day, thinking positively about the future and feeling good about yourselves.

I hope that you can believe me when I say that you are as wonderful as those people who you admire and Cara is able to help you to become that person. After seven sessions I am happy to say that I came to the root with the problem and when I think about it now, it almost seems trivial to me…now I am safe, I am free and I am feeling good about myself…

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Gary, 49, helped with Seasonally Affected Disorder (SAD)

You have given me the best chance of me to use the Thrive Programme to maximum effect for my benefit. As well as being an excellent consultant, great listener and kind in nature you are clearly a very wonderful person and for that I am grateful and it has been good to meet you. Thank you again – very effective, highly beneficial, skills and capability learned for the rest of my life – and enjoyable – I looked forward to each session.

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Lynne, 19, treated for guilty feelings

Cara has helped me to overcome the guilt I felt in every day life. I now realise that the guilt I felt was not necessary and not normal. It is so nice to make normal rash decisions now and not feeling guilty about everything and anything.

Food has always been a big issue with me and even eating a big meal I would get a sense of huge guilt come over me, feeling that I need to get it out of my body. Guilt now does not affect me and I now realise it shouldn’t. I totally recommend Cara to anyone who wants to clear unwanted emotions and just feel better about everything. Cara is such a special woman and she helped me so much. It is the best I have ever felt and such an amazing feeling to have in just a few weeks

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Jenny, 29, treated for phobias, depression, headaches and stress

My outlook and attitude has changed so much that people around me have commented on the postive changed that has come over me. The tension and stress has gone and the phobias I suffered are in the past. If something that you can’t understand is holding you back and affecting your health then you should consider this therapy and release the past which you have locked away and holding onto


* Some names have been changed to preserve anonymity

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